Cure Impotence and Herpes!

Cure Impotence Using Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT)

I have had the privilege of working with several men who have suffered from erectile dysfunction. The first was was relatively easy and uncomplicated as it involved someone who was in a new relationship, after being celibate for several years,  and concerned that he might pass on the herpes virus which his last partner had passed onto him. After a few EFT sessions, concentrating on his not wanting to infect his new partner, not only did his erectile issues resolve,(and they remain resolved several years after that series of sessions),  but he called me months later to report that subsequent tests for the herpes virus showed up as negative!

Another client had been operated on for prostate cancer about a year and a half before our first session, and was unable to be sexual without the help of an injection. He had plenty of self judgments and limiting beliefs about this!  We ended up doing some work not only on those judgments but also on his feelings about having cancer and fear that it might return, fear of death and fear that he might never get his “potency” back. When we met again, a few days later, he and his fiance both had big smiles on their faces and indicated that they had just had the best sex they had had since prior to his operation!

EFT Sessions Help To Cure Impotence and Herpes!

With another man the route into his issue was not as simple or predictable as I first assumed! When we began “Jason’s” first EFT session he wanted to work on his sadness, disappointment, frustration and judgement about ongoing impotence issues so we started by doing a bit of a sexual history and tapped on the feelings he identified. His first marriage was passionate and yet unhappy. His second one, while compatible in other ways, was difficult because of his sexual dysfunction and eventually ended in divorce.

Using EFT Tapping Recipes To Cure Impotence

Jason had recently started seeing someone so he was especially keen to work on this issue as he feared that he would lose her if he can’t “get it up”. While there initially seemed to be a clear link, (to me), between his visit to India just prior to his second marriage and his subsequent equation of spirituality with celibacy, our excursions down that road didn’t seem to get to the root of the issues. Interestingly what did, was when we explored the fact that he was adopted and given up at one month of age. This brought up some feelings about the necessity to be a good boy or he would be given up again.

After tapping on that for a more few rounds we went to an intriguing place. Jason has a sense that he was the product of a rape, and as it came out subsequently, a gang rape. So we tapped on this and went on to tap on power and powerlessness, on anger, on guilt that his father was a rapist and that Jason is the product of a rape. His grief and shame was not for only for himself but also for his mother. Jason is obviously a kind and gentle man who has been suffering all his life, wanting to ensure that he never hurt anyone.  This limiting belief, that he was somehow responsible for his mother’s rape had kept him fearful of his own power, (and sexuality), his whole life.

After reducing the intensity of his grief and anger about the circumstances of his conception we went on to explore what self empowerment might look like, what true male power might look like, and tapped in some choices to allow him to feel and claim his own power, both in the bedroom and in the world.

What this session illustrates so well it the importance to keep on digging, searching to find the real roots to an issue. I thought I had it figured out when we started work on the spirituality/ sexuality connection! While this connection no doubt played a role in Jason’s impotence, it seems his belief that he was responsible for his mother’s pain was really at the core.

When we finished the session he reported feeling a lot less afraid, much lighter and like the floodgate had been lifted. He has a new understanding of the difference between self empowerment, power over and power with. He connected with a strong desire to help educate other men on how to treat women with respect, and excitement about his mission to help men release their own painful pasts so that they don’t perpetuate their own pain and limiting beliefs by abusing the women and children in their lives, or on the streets.

 

Working with Spanish Speakers

I have been EFT coaching an Indigenous Mayan man from Guatemala.  Fernando speaks Spanish fluently and is a self taught English speaker. We have been doing EFT sessions using Skype, adding to the linguistic, geographic and technological challenges we face.

Sometimes we struggle to understand each other, partially because of my being less than fluent in Spanish, and his English, while way better than my Spanish, is not always accurate; and partly because the audio and video can be of poor quality.

Because we sometimes have difficulties with comprehension, I started to use a technique with him that I learned years ago while involved with a peer counselling community. This method seems to work really well when a person is counselling in a language that is not their first.­­­  (By the way, having some personal experience learning a new language yourself is also invaluable experience when coaching someone in a language that they are not fully fluent in. In my case I have some education and some travelling experience in French and Spanish speaking locales in Canada, Europe and Latin America.)

When I hear Fernando really struggling over the pronunciation of a word; “anxiety” and feelings of “vulnerability” were two particularly difficult words for him to say in English, I ask him to say them in Spanish which gets things moving rapidly forward. He immediately starts to visibly relax and soon starts smiling. I sense that his saying words portraying emotions, in particular, in Spanish,  or in his Mayan dialect, is very helpful in assisting him to easier gain access to and clear memories from his difficult childhood. (His family was very poor, and he had polio and numerous painful surgeries as a child). It also removes the struggle to say the words perfectly from the equation, allowing him to relax and get the full benefits of EFT without worrying about his English skills.

It is so wonderful to get his feedback as to how much he feels he is growing  and learning.  He describes feeling relaxed  and clear, instead of struggling and feeling fearful, and is very appreciative and enthusiastic about how much EFT, and the Law of Attraction, are  helping him with his life. His outlook is much more positive than it has ever been. He has stopped drinking alcohol and has gone from living on the streets to  having a room to call his own,  and he is now fully employed in a bank. Our mutual intention is that he will someday become a teacher and practitioner of EFT and help to spread EFT around Guatemala! Now all I have to do is improve my Spanish so that I can assist him with that vision! In the meantime if there is anyone who would like to contribute to a fund to help buy him a three wheel motor bike so that he can get to and from work, please contact me at alice@tappingdetective.com. Many thanks.